Ephesians 5:23 says, “For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is savior of the body.” As husbands, we are to be servants in our home. We are to be leaders. This does not mean that we are to be dictators, but we are to be responsible.
I am to love my wife as Christ loved the church. And He gave His life for the church. I am to love her sacrificially with a passionate, purifying, and protecting love. All of this does not mean that she is inferior to me. Men and women are created equal, but with different roles. The man is to be the provider. He is to provide for her emotional, physical, and spiritual needs. The husband is responsible for his loyalty to his wife.
This entire chapter in Ephesians tells us that we are to be “filled with the Spirit.” The only way that I can be that kind of husband is to be filled with the Spirit. When I gave my heart to Jesus Christ and surrendered to Him, the Holy Spirit of God came into me and gave me the spirit of Jesus so I can love like Jesus.
I think about the tragedy of “throw away” marriages today. Today we have men who stand at the marriage altar and make a holy vow. They make a covenant, not a contract, and then they walk out. A lot of people today say, “Well, I owe it to myself to be happy.” Or “It would be better for the children.” Or “I have prayed about it and God told me it was alright to get a divorce.” But God has said no such thing.
The bible says, “God hates divorce.” We owe it to God to keep our promise. We owe it to our spouses to keep our promise. We are not to walk out on our wives. If we are to love our wives as Jesus loves the church, when is Jesus going to walk out on the church? Never.
We need to see, as fathers and as husbands, our responsibilities, not our rights. Marriage is a covenant between a man and a woman and God almighty. And our wives have every right to look to us to meet their every need.